In a world when minutes turn quickly into hours and hours into days, how do we find enough time to accomplish the goals that we set for ourselves, while keeping joy, creativity, and enthusiasm in perspective?
As I sit here writing this, my brain is full of today’s tasks; get up, get dressed, walk and feed the dogs, water the garden, make and pack lunches, tend to the needs of those in my household, prepare for my first Skype meeting with a client (which happens to be about a half hour from now), re-write three of the five articles that are due today, pay bills, go grocery shopping, get home in time for another client meeting…the list goes on and on.
We all have a laundry list of things that we must do to make our lives flow. Some of us have high power jobs where meetings and phone calls and spread sheets and portfolios dominate the day. Some of us work from home and have that added pressure of creating our own schedules so that we can blend all of our responsibilities of home and work together.
Whatever you “do”, chances are your time is limited. When we sense a time crunch, many of us begin to feel stressed out, agitated, and riddled with anxiety. For many of us, these feelings are the guiding factors in our lives. We live in a world where speed is more important than quality, and we all have to figure out how to hold up beneath the weight. As soon as I wake up and my brain begins reading down the to do list of my life, that feeling of stress and not having enough time jumps in and take over. And what a ride it is!
As a woman, I have come to realize that time knows no gender. It only exists to count the seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, and years that it takes to get something done. Sometimes it seems to move so slowly that we find ourselves wishing we could speed things up. More often, though, we find ourselves wishing that we could stop it altogether, just so that we can keep up with the mountains of things we absorb into our routines, work schedules, and daily life ablutions.
But, as a woman, I also recognize the fact that our society has, for hundreds of years, placed an inordinate amount of pressure upon women to get the job done, and to do it better and faster than anyone else. It’s almost like a game; except it never really feels like we are winning.
So, what can we do to help ourselves move more fluidly and peacefully through our days?
We must make time for ourselves.
Whether that time is first thing in the morning, halfway through the day, or in the evening, it is imperative that we find a way to take a moment to breathe. Here are a few ideas, silly as they may seem, to give yourself that space that your mind, body, and soul are so desperately craving.
These are just a few suggestions that I can offer up in order for us to find some time for ourselves. Being a woman in the world takes patience. It takes hard work and an enormous amount of strength. We work twice, sometimes three times, as hard every day to accomplish the same things that a man will accomplish. Our days are long and our nights are never long enough.
It is crucial to make time for yourself. And once you find that time, it is vital to figure out how to manage that time to meet your needs.
Maybe one day, we will have it all figured out. Until then, it’s up to each one of us to provide the self-help and self-love that we need to make it through another day.